Sex and The Souls

I have not written an article for a while now. Poetry got a bit greedy and started dominating me. But being here at home under this pure African skyline, under these mountains and landscapes that I grew up under I felt that I should take some time off to start writing articles again, so as to do something productive over my jolly merry holidays. Who knows; these stories may lead to a novel one day. Well, that will be a very disorganized one though I must say, because my thoughts, more often than not tend to be very scattered.

Since my purpose is to say a lot of things LOUDLY and my focus is always on sexuality, and relationships I thought I should write this article on one of the things that always bug me. For the past few months or so, my Facebook newsfeed has been flooded with stories of people immediately realizing that “every time you sleep with a person, they leave a part of them with you. Your soul conceives that someone’s soul and the more people you sleep with the more deadly souls you have inside of you. These pollute your own soul too, you change from the person you purely were and act in a manner that is not voluntarily controlled by you but by the souls that reside inside of you because of your sexual discrepancies. This is why sexual contact, by religion and by social and cultural morality should be reserved for marriage only.”

Well, I will not lie, this got me thinking a lot, especially about the people, therefore souls that I have acquired and allowed habitat in my own soul. Well, there is more than one, more than two, more than… (Ok, I have lost count). What I am trying to say is that if I honestly started counting, this article will never get to be finished. The more I assessed myself was the more I realized the screwed up person I actually am because of all the things that I got up to. I realized the people who also got screwed up just because they allowed me and my thousand souls inside them too. For one, I have never been in a relationship that lasted for more than a year, well until I met my current partner. We have been with each other for a year, having sex with each other for a year and 4months now to be exact. But we have known each other for about 3years now. I guess she is the additional soul that I have allowed in. she would do things that I do, and I would also find myself doing things that she does and she would be like “Well, I guess, that is sexually transmitted.”. and now that I really do think about it, I have known her for long, have been having sex with her the longest therefore every time we allow each other to each other’s most fragile places, we also allow each other’s souls and habits to intertwine.

Have you ever wondered why people would say: “wow, you guys really look alike, you could be siblings” to people who have dated for a long time? Hhhhmmm, ok I know that’s creepy, and I’m not there. But truth is; that person’s soul finds a comfort zone inside of you the more you allow it to. You start being a mirror image of that person to the world that sees your physical self. That one soul does not just reside inside of you but on your physical appearance too. But I have found this to be true of people who have very strong sexual and emotional bonds. These people do not just have sex that takes them to heaven and back but they also love each other to heaven and back. When they have sex, they make love on another cloud 9 deep level. They do not even attempt on any given day to block each other out (I know one can be blocked out because this I have attempted with success a couple of times. There were those people I could not take the risk of letting them in). One willingly pours themselves to the other and let’s go of everything. They stand naked in body and soul and the other one willingly opens up, (not just legs) but heart, soul, and mind, and they get lost into each other through this sacred act.

Does this mean when you do find this type of soul, you stand a chance of getting your soul purified? I think so. The more you let one constant person in and allow them to dwell in you, you force all the other souls out, slowly and silently, their footprints and the patterns that they left within you disappear and you get renewed. It’s like this; I’m not a person who reads the bible much but there are verses somewhere between the scriptures that state something like this, “they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles.”  And another one says something like this: “the Lord redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion; he satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.” I am not trying to compare one person who is also in the flesh with God but the bible does say itself that God is Love, therefore when you find that person who truly loves you, when you find love, you find God himself in his pure-rest form. Therefore it makes sense that you get renewed, you get new wings, a new fresher soul, even stronger than the one you had before. Your unhealthy sexual life gets you in something like a pit, like a hell of some sort in your waking life, but you get redeemed and crowned by love and compassion. All other soul ties get broken loose.

I guess we really do have to understand that every time you sleep with someone, you become one flesh with that person. You enter into some form of marriage. Like in the old biblical times, there was no marriage like we have now, people never use to go to church to be married by a pastor and everyone would come and celebrate this matrimonial act. No. what used to happen is that marriage was measured by sex. The person you have sex with is the person that is regarded as your spouse. So imagine the people you have engaged in sexual acts with. I guess we have to strive to find our soul mates in this lifetime. That one person who will help us purify ourselves and be new again and enter into new forms of sexual, emotional and soul ties. When you do find that person, hold on to them because letting go will cause more hurt and you will feel like your soul has been ripped out and hence a lot of people tend to get suicidal when they break up with their partners of many years and people who do not understand would be like: “but you have a family, why would you kill yourself for a man or a woman.” It goes back to soul ties. This is deeper than what we can ever attempt to comprehend.

#Sigh

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